Dating, New Roommate & Life In General

Posted on 07/01/2008. Filed under: Books & Writing, Friends, Relationships |

Well, it has been a little while since my last blog post. I have to say, that was a bit of an ‘experience’ *laughs*. Thankfully the guy in question did wind up understanding and didn’t turn into Mr. Stalker, LOL. Ever since the breakup with my last boyfriend back in September I haven’t really been interested in pursuing dating, much less a relationship. Deep down I would like to have someone in my life, but let’s face it, as fun as dating can be it can also be a pain. In the past when a relationship has ended it hasn’t taken me very long to get back on a dating site and meet new people. In fact I’ve been pretty eager to get back out there again. This time has been different.

One of my friends recently had some things happen that have made it necessary for her to ‘regroup’. Since my son moved out I have a spare bedroom in my apartment, so I offered to have her become my roommate. I had been enjoying having the place to myself, but she’s been a good friend for a number of years, and I wanted to help her. All of her big stuff was moved in this past weekend and she will be fully moved in by the end of this week. I have never had a roommate before, so it will be a bit of an adjustment. I think having a roommate is very different than living with someone you are dating or married to. This should be interesting *laughs*.

On the 27th I was at work, trying to get things done even though I had a headache that kept trying to become a migraine. I finally decided to work on the schedule, which needed to be done by the next day, hoping that by sitting still it might help a bit. As I was looking over the schedule I realized that we had great coverage every day of the week since a lot of the college students wanted to be able to pick up more hours during their winter break. I had been talking about how I needed to take a vacation for over a month and I decided to just go ahead and take time off. I’m not actually going anywhere since it was really last minute, but starting tonight at 7:00 when I punch out from work I will be off till next Monday afternoon. *YAY* People have asked me where I am going and what I’m doing with my time off… Well as I said, I’m not going anywhere, however I am going to use the time to do a few projects that I’ve been wanting to work on, plus do more writing in my story… maybe I’ll be able to bring it up to 50,000 words by the time I go back to work…. Yeah, it’s a rather lofty goal, but it should be fun. I’m pretty sure I will wind up kicking around Fells Point, Canton or Federal Hill at some point as well. Above all else I will be RELAXING. The only way it could possibly be better is if I were to go to the beach… However, I don’t think I will be doing that this time around.

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Thank goodness for weekends off!

Posted on 22/07/2006. Filed under: Friends, Kids, Life in General, Relaxation |

This has been a rather busy and tiring week.  It started with a busy weekend last weekend – Working on Saturday and then helping a friend paint on Sunday.

The Sunday painting project consisted of painting one wall of my friend Christy’s apartment, then going to her boyfriend’s house and putting primer on the two bathrooms (and one bathroom ceiling).  While we were doing that I was standing on a toilet seat (the step stool wouldn’t fit in that corner and we didn’t have an extension pole at the time).  Well, as I was painting the last bit of the corner the seat slipped (one side wasn’t attached) and I started to fall… luckily I was holding the window ledge for balance and was able to catch myself.  The only problem is that night my back began hurting… the next two days at work were not fun, and only the use of ibuprofen and thermacare patches made it possible for me to function.  I didn’t realize at the time I’d hurt myself though.  After we were done painting at his place we went back to her apartment and finished our painting job there.  We were doing sponge painting on her dining room wall in the same colors as the bottom half of a previous painting project we did in her spare bedroom.  It came out with a nice marbled effect that was rather pleasing.  I’ll have to get a camera and take photos of both rooms some time and post them.

The first few days of the week were spent with me sleeping and trying to get my back to feel better, though I did attend the Orioles game on Monday night.  Tom Hanks and Ron Howard were there, and could be seen (barely) from our seats.  It was a good game, and the O’s won *grins*  Tuesday I found out that all the techs have to get their certification by next year – which means that I have to take the test in November *whee*  So… it’s time to start hitting the books and memorizing doseage calculations and ratios, drug classifications, brand names and their generic equivalents, metric conversions, etc.  Oh what fun!  I’d rather take classes, because I feel that some things are easier to learn that way rather than being self-taught.

Now I finally have a full weekend off, my daughter is spending time with her boyfriend, as with most weekends now.  She only has 25 more days till she leaves for boot camp and is doing her best to make the most of her time.

Hopefully I will be in the right mood to do a little bit of writing at some point this weekend, my story has been on the back burner for far too long.  I also want to get some studying done, not exactly relaxing stuff, but I’ll wind up being more relaxed if I do, because I’ll be closer to knowing all the material for the certification test.  If I have any time left over  then I’ll spend it playing sudoku and reading.

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Just Playing Around

Posted on 09/07/2006. Filed under: Friends, Kids, Life in General, Relaxation |

Last night my friend Christy took me out to celebrate my birthday and the birthdays of 2 of her other friends. Their husbands came along to join in the fun, and we all had a great time, though I think I was the only one in the group that didn’t wind up with a hangover this morning. Toward the end of the evening 2 male friends of Christy’s wound up joining us. One of them was a little more than “friendly” with me… I guess he thought that because I was wearing a short leather skirt and boots that it meant he could grope me…. Uh… let me see… NO.

We didn’t stay out very late, I’d gotten up early to go to work and had plans with my oldest today, and then there’s the problem of me being unable to sleep in most days that I don’t work. It was a good thing I got to bed around 1:30, because right around 6:45 these WONDERFUL crows started “singing” back & forth outside my window… those birds are LOUD!! So… at 7:00 this morning I wandered to the coffee pot and started playing around with photos and surfing the web. After a while I decided it was time to enjoy the beautiful weather, so I went to Starbucks and grabbed coffee and a little something to eat and sat down outside. I spent the next few hours listening to music, finishing one of the books I’ve been reading and playing sudoku.

My oldest son met me there and I drove us back to my place so we could have some lunch before going to see the new Pirates of the Carribean movie. We got to the movies before my son’s girlfriend and her family arrived, so I went and sat down and saved seats for us – which isn’t easy in a crowded theater. Everyone finally joined me just before the movie itself started. I really enjoyed the movie, I thought it was every bit as good as the first one, and it certainly built on the storyline. I can hardly wait for the next one to come out! *grins*

Now I’m back home, drinking a beer, typing in my blog, listening to music and otherwise just playing around *winks* I’m also hoping to catch up with someone, though it all depends on if we’ll both be online at the same time.

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One of those months?

Posted on 27/02/2006. Filed under: Friends, Life in General, Relaxation |

I’ve been running around like crazy since the beginning of the month.  Between work, kids, birthdays, dating,  another trip to Atlanta for more modeling and searching for a new apartment things have been hectic to say the least.

Yesterday I went to my friend Christy’s apartment to paint her spare bedroom (her fiancee’s kids are going to be sharing the room) and it turned out to be quite the adventure.  At first she had just planned on a simple paint job (no problem, that doesn’t take very long).  By the time we got to Home Depot to get the paint she had decided she wanted to do something more than just plain walls…  She wanted us to sponge paint the walls.  I had never sponge painted walls before and I remembered that the few people I knew who HAD done that said it was harder than they thought it would be to get a nice effect.  I was rather nervous about trying my hand at that on her walls.  Then she decided that she wanted some wall stickers and we went looking through the wallpaper books.  We found this really nice wall border that had a fun beach scene on it, with palm trees, cabanas, and a funky painted VW beetle.  She decided that would be the perfect thing for the kid’s room.  THEN she decided she wanted us to sponge paint the bottom of the room with colors that would match the sand and the top of the room with colors that would match the sky.

When we got home we started by taping around the room in the middle of where we would apply the border when it came in.  Then I started painting each half of the wall with the appropriate base color and then we stopped so I could make us dinner – Turkey Tetrazzini *yum*.  While our food was baking in the oven we mixed the two glaze colors for the sponge painting and got to work.  It took a little while to get a ‘feel’ for the best way to do the sponging, but after a while I was having fun.  We stopped long enough to eat dinner and then got back to work.  We started the project at 3:00 in the afternoon and we were done with it by 10:00 in the evening, even with our break to make and eat dinner.  We probably spent about 4 to 5 hours at most in actual time painting the room, which isn’t too bad considering the fact we were painting an 11 x 11 room and neither one of us had ever done sponge painting before.  It looked good before I left, though it was late and it’s hard to tell until the paint has dried and you see the room by daylight if it really does look good.  Christy told me this morning that it looks great.  I get to see what it’s like tomorrow – I can hardly wait.  If I like it a lot then I think I’ll do it in my bedroom once I move 🙂

Considering the fact I was painting most of Sunday afternoon I had a pretty good weekend.  Friday I had my middle daughter over to spend the night.  She and I went out shopping for her birthday (she’s 15 now!!) and then to dinner.  Then Saturday night I got to spend time with my boyfriends kids while he went to an “adults only” Birthday party for his uncle.  I think the kids and I had a better time than he did 🙂  I was really glad he asked me.  I like his kids and I’ve been wanting to spend time with them so I can get to know them.  I’m not sure what they think of me exactly, but I think they’re good kids.

I’m looking forward to taking a nice vacation… but I don’t know when I’ll be able to break free.

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Posted on 21/12/2005. Filed under: Friends, Frustration |

It’s a hard thing when someone you care about has something bad happen in their life and they won’t talk about what’s wrong, much less allow you to help them.  I have often been through difficult times and I have been the one stubbornly shouldering the burden myself.  Now that I see it happen to someone who I was growing close to I feel frustrated that I’m not allowed to be a good friend and help.  I know there is incongruity there in my thoughts, where it’s perfectly acceptable for me to shoulder a burden on my own, but that it’s not ok for those I care about to do the same.  Perhaps the difference is that when I shoulder the burden myself I do not shut out those I care for completely, even though I do retreat and deal with things myself.

It is especially hard to see someone in pain during the Christmas season and be unable to help them in any way.  I guess I’m sort of naive in this, but I feel everyone should be happy for Christmas.  I wish it were possible.

How do you help a friend who refuses your help, who refuses to even talk about what’s wrong?

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