Posted on 21/12/2005. Filed under: Friends, Frustration |

It’s a hard thing when someone you care about has something bad happen in their life and they won’t talk about what’s wrong, much less allow you to help them.  I have often been through difficult times and I have been the one stubbornly shouldering the burden myself.  Now that I see it happen to someone who I was growing close to I feel frustrated that I’m not allowed to be a good friend and help.  I know there is incongruity there in my thoughts, where it’s perfectly acceptable for me to shoulder a burden on my own, but that it’s not ok for those I care about to do the same.  Perhaps the difference is that when I shoulder the burden myself I do not shut out those I care for completely, even though I do retreat and deal with things myself.

It is especially hard to see someone in pain during the Christmas season and be unable to help them in any way.  I guess I’m sort of naive in this, but I feel everyone should be happy for Christmas.  I wish it were possible.

How do you help a friend who refuses your help, who refuses to even talk about what’s wrong?


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Sometimes the best help is just stepping aside. I’ve certainly met more then two (2) types of people in this world but I try not to judge. I of all people am not perfect, in fact I haven’t met anyone who is; still that doesn’t change the fact that more people need to learn to be understanding and compassionate to those they care about. In short being a friend is probably more important then “helping one through a difficult situation”. or something like that!

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